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On Where I Can Shit & Where I Can Piss

Cloudy again today. I don't know when the clouds arrived, as they were not here when I awoke an hour ago. But they're here now. Currently, it's only 46˚F. Oh, lovely New England spring. I went outside yesterday, for the first in seven days. There are tiny, sad bit of green here and there. There are buds, and I try to find it reassuring, and I just do not.

Yesterday was actually a good writing day. I did 1,091 words on "Objects in the Mirror." I'd planned the story to go to about 6,000 words. Now, I fear it wants to go nearer 10,000. I say fear, because I have other things that have to be written, other deadlines. I have a novel to begin. I have another novella to write.

Meanwhile, North Carolina says that – despite the sex designation of my USA passport – have to the relieve myself in a men's restroom. Because it's somehow their business. Because there's hysteria that trans people are just conning the system to ogle poor, unsuspecting women and children and, presumably, men. That, in the end, the God-ordained social order and natural order will come tumbling down if we do not keep transfolk to the toilets of their birth gender. Tennessee and South Dakota – surprisingly – decided not to enact these measures (but just barely). The question is still undecided in Georgia, Illinois, Oklahoma, Massachusetts, Minnesota, and Virginia.

And here's the thing: I transitioned in Birmingham, Alabama between 1989 and 1992, and while I certainly did take a lot of shit off people, there was never once a severe bathroom incident. And after I transitioned, I stayed in the South, first in Birmingham, then Athens, then Birmingham again, then Atlanta. That's a period of about eighteen years, before I moved to Rhode Island. And not even once was there a notable bathroom incident. No one ever ordered me to leave or called the cops or shrieked in terror and demanded justice. Every now and then, rarely, I might get a funny look. But...that was it. And I'm talking restrooms in universities, libraries, restaurants, scary-ass redneck truck stops, science-fiction conventions, convenience stores, fast-food joints, Federal and State and municipal government buildings, shopping malls, hair salons, nightclubs, bookstores, and even a high school. Nothing ever happened.

And not only in the South, but from one end of this country to the other, and in Canada, Ireland, and England...never have I caused or been subject to toilet hysteria. And keep in mind, I'm 6'3", I have a fairly deep voice, and I have never fooled myself into believing that I "pass" as a genetic female.

So, kittens, what's gone wrong? We are moving backwards.

And, by the way, why haven't these cretins tried to figure out how to stop gay men from using men's restrooms and lesbians from invading the ladies' rooms? I mean, by the twisted, bigoted logic these fuckers are employing, that would actually make sense. Or is it only a matter of time until we get toilet segregation?

You know, there's more I was going to say, but I'm too angry. Fine, you can keep fucking North Carolina. I have this marvelous Cold Spring here in New England, where, so far, the toilet hysteria has not extended.

Aunt Beast


( 9 comments — Have your say! )
Marc D. Goldfinger
Mar. 24th, 2016 04:33 pm (UTC)
Toilet hysteria
I would think that the people of our world have more things going on than worrying about who is in the next booth in the bathroom. Fuck! Dumb as Trump this is.
Mitchell Henson
Mar. 24th, 2016 04:39 pm (UTC)
In the last six years our legislative government has been infiltrated by the bat shit crazy theocrats. It's an election year and they know in November they are going to lose. They are doing as much damage as possible in the meantime.
Mar. 24th, 2016 06:27 pm (UTC)
So, kittens, what's gone wrong? We are moving backwards.

None of these laws has anything to do with reality, only bigotry. I just hate living in a time when bigotry is enough to get laws through.
Mar. 24th, 2016 06:58 pm (UTC)
The only toilet hysteria I've ever experienced was right here in New Orleans, in what most people would consider the hippest part of town, in an establishment dedicated to healing and the arts. You just never know where it's going to crop up.
Mar. 24th, 2016 08:55 pm (UTC)
What lois2037 said. As long as it's behind closed doors, it's no one's business who is using the bathroom. You would think legislators would have bigger fish to fry than worrying about who is using which potty.
Mar. 24th, 2016 09:00 pm (UTC)

When we lived in NC there was a subset of people who held this idiotic mindset. I'm sorry to see they're in ascendance now. I'm glad none of the NC colleges are interesting to my kid; they identify as agender/genderfluid.

You'd think that the NC legislators would have taken a look at what was going on just a little ways down the coast in Georgia at the exact same time. When the NFL, of all people, say that you're out of line and being bigoted, that should be a wake-up call to your sanity.
Mar. 25th, 2016 03:25 am (UTC)
At Zotz Cafe we label our bathrooms not by gender but as "Day of the Dead" or "Forest Faerie". You decide which one you go to by the murals on the walls that you like to look at not by your gender.
Mar. 25th, 2016 06:14 am (UTC)
Zotz Café
That's the coolest idea ever.
Mar. 26th, 2016 11:03 pm (UTC)
I mean, by the twisted, bigoted logic these fuckers are employing, that would actually make sense. Or is it only a matter of time until we get toilet segregation?

It would not be called toilet segregation. They would keep the toilets unto themselves, and bore the holes into the very floor for us to use.
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